Friday, December 4, 2009

Fucking vs Making Love vs Quickie

Sexual intercourse - heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis.

Fucking, Making love and quickie are not defined in the dictionary so I figured id try and break it down so that it will forever be broke! All the shit the same, there is no difference. It is something that we made up to feel special when we are having sex with someone. Can you make love with someone for 5 minutes or is that a quickie? Can you fuck to slow music, candles and light 4 play? Can you think its making love but the partner think yall just fucking? What kind of connection do you have to have? It's all the same, penetration. I mean don't get me wrong, I know there are differences but why is what I'm asking. I know girls who prefer to be fucked but how do you make 'fucking' feel special? Like if you want it to be right.. Do you light candles, play some sade, get the strawberries and then fuck? Do you make love to cut buddies? {random but a good question}.. WAIT!! Shit just hit me.. When you 'make love' to a woman, is that where she gets her feelings from? Because yall "made" the love? Random, don't mind me.

I honestly don't care what I call it. If Keri Hilson came to me and said "I want a quickie" I'm a make love to that tall heffa for 5 mins. If I don't have shit to do and can have sex, I might go for 30 mins or so.. Play some R-Kelly and light candles so I can see and take my time. Kiss and lick her all over because she looked tasty in her outfit that day and she might label it making love because I took my time.. But.. Does it count that I only took my time because I had nothing else to do? If this girl hit me up that be avoiding me and we have sex.. I might 'Fuck' her for a long ass time.. Change the position about 5 different ones.. Pound her shit out, deep stroke, short stroke, eat the chocha, smack her ass, choke her, etc.. But I'm doing these things with intentions of hurting her because she been avoiding me. That to me is fucking but she might tell her girl friends that we made love because of the shit I did. Idk. I mean, it's all just words to me. It's all sex to me at the end of the day. I feel you should always take yo time and just go all out. Why? Because if you something goes wrong and a baby pops up.. Now you gotta spend 18 plus years raising something that took 3 minutes to make. I feel like some one was getting the short end of sex and started making up terms to justify as to why they were getting what they was getting. Its all a mental thing, just like everything else people gas up. O well.. What you think? Peaaaaace! @EDotDizzy {twitter flow}

14 comments:

Keshia December 5, 2009 at 6:55 AM  

First off I want to say Dizz you silly. I understand your points made but they had me laughing the whole time :).

Well I belive there is a difference and I would like to share with you my understanding.

Quickies are quickies whether you have feeling for your partner or if it a one night stand. Quickie to me is when I just want it real quick don't do all that special stuff let's just get to it.

Making love is a silly term to me I feel if we both have feeling and we get that crying during sex moment. Then we just being over emotional but regardless if I love you or not it's still fucking. So I agree with you for most part on that one.

Anonymous December 5, 2009 at 7:56 AM  

Dizz, people really create blogs and facebook notes to define what those terms mean. I can't say anything because I'm not having sex.

Supastarrr December 5, 2009 at 8:20 AM  

I think those terms were made up by hopeless romantics in an effort to prove they weren't "slowly fucking" but instead "making love". When I was little, I thought making love was going slow, taking your time. Now, I kinda feel the same plus the relationship you have with that person must be taken into account. No matter how slow you go, you can't make love to a prostitute.

superduperkya December 5, 2009 at 9:56 AM  

lmfao I loved this post.
I too think you should go hard to please & get pleased, quickie, love making... whatever.
& lololol @ taking Keri hilsons "tall ass" down!

Mikki. December 5, 2009 at 11:51 AM  

Fornicating with somebody you have feelings for (even if they don't feel the same way) feels waaaaaaay better than any regular person, regardless of the time length.

Shandra E...*the misses December 5, 2009 at 2:14 PM  

One thing you said IS True: "It's mental"!! ALL OF IT!! EVEN CLIMAX, etc...


Whether a person is "effing", making love, or having a quickie, has nothing to do with time/duration, stroke patterns, etc! lol....It's all about the intent/motives of the two people involved! Making Love is simply a mere attempt to make 'love'...TANGIBLE?! Basically, people are striving to show each other : "I love you & i want you to FEEL it". & when a man is no longer making LOVE...even if he takes his time, hits all the right spots, etc...A woman will always know...

Sometimes sex is just a Release people need! Afterall it's an Essential NEED that we've "sugar coated" with additional definitives...

a QUICKIE is a mere attempt to fulfill that need, as soon as possible, because one cannot wait(no connection needed, just pure lust&desire seeking release)

effing: rough, wild sex. Women sometimes say "i don't wanna make love tonight; just "eff" me" (lmbo i don't curse)..when a woman says that, she's saying Let's put all the emotional attachments to the side; lets not "care" about how we do it or why we're doing it...Let's just Do It...& make it feel Good! lol


And like "VirginQueen", i've never had sex before either, But it's all logical to me when we make it a discussion!

ThaFamousNobody December 5, 2009 at 4:45 PM  

haha @ Shandra and VirginQueen. It's not logic until you actually have had sex. I use to think the same thing before I got into sex. Once you finally get to that point you will think back on this post and was like damn.. He made sense. Everything is just words someone made up to justify why they getting what they getting. Thank yall for ALWAYS reading and commenting. I love yall both.

BRISTINA December 6, 2009 at 4:25 AM  

OK DIZZY U ALREADY KNO I HAD TO COMMENT ON THIS...


OK I FEEL THEY ARENT JUST SILLY TERMS THE ACTUALLY HAVE MEANIN T THEM...UMM LET ME BREAK IT DOWN...


QUICKIE: U USUALLY ONLY HAVE A QUICKIE WIT SOMEONE WHEN U JUST HORNY AS HELL AND U NEED TO GET A NUT OFF AND THEN GONE ABOUT YO DAY AND PROBABLY DONT CALL OR CONVERSATE WITH THAT PERSON UNTIL U NEED TO SLIDE DOWN ON THIER ASSES FOR ANOTHER QUICKIE...

FUCKIN:WHEN U FUCK SOMEONE YALL BOTH USUALLY HORNY AS FUCK AND YALL JUST WANT TO GET IT IN FOR A MOMENT AND I AGREE WIT U THATS WHEN ALL THE SMAKING ASS AND ALL THAT SHOULD COME INTO PLAY AT...U KNO THATS WHEN U JUST GIVE THAT BITCH OR THAT NIGGA THE BIZ AND HE/SHE BE THINKIN ABOUT THAT WHOLE LIL SITUATION FOR ABOUT 2 DAYS...U CAN PLAY MUSIC BUT NOT ALL THAT SLOW SHIT CAUSE THATS WHEN PEOPLE START TO GET CONFUSED AND THINK YALL WAS MAKING LUV WHEN U CLEARILY INVITED THE PERSON OVER AND TOLD THEM U WANTED TO "FUCK" NOT MAKE LUV...AFTER YALL DO THIS YALL TAKE A SHOWER AND PART WAYS OR JUST CHILL WATCHIN MOVIES AND SHIT...


MAKIN LOVE: MAKIN LUV SHOULD ONLY BE DONE BETWEEN 2 MUTHA FUCKAS WHO LUV EACH OTHER ... THATS WHEN U SHOULD PULL OUT THE CANDLES AND SHIT AND TAKE UR TIME AND MAKE THAT PERSON FEEL SPECIAL...THATS WHEN U PUT ON R.KELLY 12 PLAY OR TREY SONGZ OR SOMETHING...THIS IS WHEN U USE UR MOUTH PIECE LIKE U NEVER USED IT BEFORE ...I MEAN JUST TAKE UR TIME AND GO TO WORK ON THE PERSON AND THEN GO TO SLEEP NEXT TO EACH OTHER...

zodiac December 6, 2009 at 12:50 PM  

me im not doin none of that (tryin to be the last of a dying breed, a actual virgin) but i will tell you what i heard, i've heard that making love is emotional and it's when you look your partner in his/her eyes and you kiss and it's very sensual, fuckin is a in and out thing and it's no stings attached, a quickie is alot like fuckin cause it's just someone gettin some when they feel horny and thats where booty calls come into play lol, great post, my friends and i actually spoke about this and i learned that men and women may have different opinions about this cause to my guy friends they were like it's no difference cause either way his penis is in her vagina and the ladies said there was a differnce but you have to experience it all to have a say

Anonymous December 6, 2009 at 3:31 PM  

lol Well Dizzybabe, you know where I stand...but I clearrrrly get what your saying...alright, my input again lol

Quickie: 15 minutes or less, get it in, get the nut, get back to your daily activity. Pull a quickie when you got shit to do, but you really could use a good lay.

Fucking: rough unbelievable sex..which can happen whether your in love with someone or not...I can fuck my man, or get fucked by him..doesn't mean there's no feelings involved...its just a way in which its done...done dirty, but good

Making Love: when its "clearly" established by both parties that your making love. You can have candles and slow music, or you can go at it crazy n rough...but its the emotional connection ur making with that person that makes the difference. You can fuck the hell outta someone, but if there's that emotional connection in which both people share n feel- well there's where the difference!

I get what ur sayin tho...they aren't defined in the dictionary, and someone prolly gave em their different classifications...but I still like separating them personally based off my experiences! :)

-AJ

Lyrik Marie December 6, 2009 at 4:39 PM  

Semantics ....


Its a really an emotional thing .. Cuz the actual activity no matter what you call it, is all the same .. It all consist of penetration between the vagina & penis ..

Depending on what MUTUAL emotions are present between both parties makes it a lil less difficult .. but none the less its all SEXUAL INTERCOURSE .


ANOTHER 1 DIZ
iLy !

bidi December 6, 2009 at 7:56 PM  

Veryyyy nicely written <3

bidi December 6, 2009 at 7:56 PM  

nicceellllly written

Miss Daja December 7, 2009 at 11:39 PM  

i may be a ditz..
but i think theres a difference..

atleast in my house there is..lol
there are times when i want it slow and passionate..
its like we take the time to explore eachothers bodies and make love..

theres other times when i want my back banged out..hair pulled (thanking goodness its mine) lol..back scratching..busting the head boards..

and theres times when i only have 20mins before i leave to work and i am craving a quickie..just to feel it in me..

lol..
sorry for going there..but shit. i think theres a difference even though it still all leads back to penetration..

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