Saturday, April 11, 2009

The Catch.. Dumb ass!

I just got in a heated argument just now with a friend over some bs! She was telling me I was scared of commitment because my longest relationship wasn't actually long at all it was 3 or 4 months, I think. I don't really remember. I haven't been in a relationship in almost three years. Damn, that's long! Her longest relationship was 4 or 5 years and she loovvvvved this guy to death. She thought they would be together for ever, hell I did too low key. Well long story short, they broke up and she is single again. =D

This is where the argument starts! She saying that I'm scared of commitment which is not the case because I commit to a lot of stuff. I can't think of any right now but, I do! LMAO!! I just have a low tolerance for bullshit, very low tolerance. Her and her ex has been dating for bout five years but was more off then on for the last two years of the relationship. She has come to me for more advice then I feel one should and still consider the relationship to be "healthy". So in the past 5 years I have dated maybe 5 girls to her 1 guy but at the end of it all.. WE BOTH STILL SINGLE!!

People, stop holding onto your past relationships as a trophy or something because you only look foolish. Yeah you have had a long relationship but your still single at the end of the day. If it appears that I'm scared of commitment, I look at it as your scared of being alone. Take it how you want haha but that's how I feel. How you like them apples!! What yall think though?

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16 comments:

Athena Christine. April 11, 2009 at 7:26 PM  

my longest relationships have been only a year. i don't think i'm scared of commintment..maybe a little; but i have trust issues and most men prove my point. i have a hard time opening up my feelings to someone. so fuck long relationships. lol.

Vince April 11, 2009 at 7:31 PM  

I wouldn't call it "scared". I just know that most of the time the relationship ends up ending because of some trust type shit, so why bother.. Longest I've had was like 4 months.

Charlei April 11, 2009 at 7:58 PM  

ahah i mean theres no arguement, yah both caught up in the same race. that being that both of yah are still single, i don't think its a committment* issue because that just sounds like the reason both yah are single is yahs fault. u feel me? (i mean is it?) but all in all experience is good. and an experience is an experience. whos afraid really shouldnt be an issue. but only time will tell. slap her next time, sn

yo, but how she try to bag you and say that? haha when she's single too

JKisz April 11, 2009 at 8:14 PM  

my longest relationship was like 3 years. dated him from my sophomore year til i graduated. and i can truly and honestly say that although it taught me a lot, it was a waste of time. i say that because like you said, i'm still single and have nothing to show for it but a scar on my little heart and a story to tell. i have no problem with commitment! like athena said, it's more like a trust issue. that and a lot[not all]of dudes nowadays aren't worth the effort. but let me not even go there. i don't think there's anything wrong with long relationships. i mean, i prefer relationships over one night stands or very short term relationships. but it all depends on the people involved in the relationship. if you feel that you do best in long term relationships then more power to you. if you like being single or being involved in short term relationships when do ya thing.

Ms. Naomie April 11, 2009 at 8:20 PM  

I haven't been in a relationship for like 2 years & its mainly b/c I too also have a very low tolerance for bullshit & feel like theres no need to be w/someone that I know isn't gonna be serious or keep it 100 all the time. I also have problems opening up to people so...uhm yeah thats my reason, but honestly ya'll are both single so theres no need for an argument. she lame

&& you commit to your music, thats something..right??

LaaLaa April 12, 2009 at 3:34 AM  

hmm scared aint the word to use;
that could be applied to me aswell but i'm not scared, i can't commit to someone long-term if i don't gel with them not everyone is going to be able to sit through all the bullshit etc and carry on for months; i break shit off if i don't see it going any further and im feeling its a waste, my longest relationship has only been 9months...and that shit i held onto through BULLSHIT.

Whatcha Nameis April 12, 2009 at 4:17 AM  

I've never had a boyfriend and of course I'm always asked why haven't had one? I've been told that I'm probably scared to committ. And I totally agree with "If it appears that I'm scared of commitment, I look at it as your scared of being alone. " That's how it is for most people. Afraid they'll end up watching porno all their life, or having a fck buddy instead of someone to actually make love to.

& we're here to entertain the mind & capture the SOUL . April 12, 2009 at 9:07 AM  

*well , after reading everyone's comments . i totally agree with all 7 . it takes alot of work to be in a long relationship , but like a few of you said ; it depends on the person & how they're feeling . i myself havent been in a relationship in over 2 years now . yes thats pretty long , but i mean everybody is single for a reason .
so for the people that go out & talk to any & everybody , its because they're scared of lonley ; or for the people who wanna stay & TRY to make somethin work , its because they're scared of lonley also . .
& how can she tell you what youre scared of ?
lol . funny .

Kita Katt Monroe April 12, 2009 at 9:21 AM  

damn i thought I commented yesterday... We kinda rapped about this yesterday but I feel where your coming from and this is similar to my past...

Jasmine Nicole April 12, 2009 at 9:27 AM  

Lol @ "I can't think of any right now."
I've never been in a real relatonship..I have but they don't count ..but I agree with this post. Time doesn't mean anything of the entire relationship is bs..and I'd rather be single than put up with it.

D. Crayton April 12, 2009 at 10:24 AM  

the catch...lolz...i feelz ya doe..But my longest relationship was 2 1/2 years and i think it was a waste of time to0 becuz outta those TWO and A HALF years...we NEVER progressed! And it's kinda unfortunate! But, when it comes 2 new guys I also have a trust issue but I do know i needa digress 4rm that and I do try...but some guys just don't get it...always take 4 granted what dey have..whetha it be long term or short term. but DiZzY dont get mad at her...TRUTH HURTS!!

Sei'Lani Britagne April 12, 2009 at 10:42 AM  

well Dizz my Nizz... she was half-right. Since you have a "very low tolerance for bullshit" it is weighing on your commitment. Commitment is staying with something no matter how hard it gets through the bullshit that both of ya'll will encounter and you aren't willing to do that.

every relationships is gonna have bullshit but it's either deal with it, or have the short terms.

either you work it out and build up trust and love, or you let it go because your not willing to put in work (on both sides). that's what it comes down to for me. I had nothing but short terms I can't even call boyfriends then my last relationship (my longest) lasted a year.. i know its short kind of but like I took the time to deal with bullshit and he did it with me and we built a very strong relationship and we are still good friends today.

(we broke up because of distance and an illness)

Anonymous April 12, 2009 at 11:09 AM  

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E Dot DizZy April 12, 2009 at 12:05 PM  

I know relationships come with bullshit but who says I have to deal with it right when it start out? I just feel like I don't have to deal with stupid shit right off the back. Thats what I meant.

Qu33n Kam... April 12, 2009 at 10:52 PM  

I totally feel the way you do becuz even if you are wit one person for along time doesnt mean u know more about being wit someone then someone who has been with multiple ppl for a short period. I think the person wit the more ppl is prolly more experienced becuz they were more diverse lolz [if that makes sense lol] but anywho i feel thet with the only difference between the two is one person was more willing to accept shit than the other and faught harder for the relationship doesnt mean the other person is scared of commitment they jus dont feel that person is worthy of their commitment. U shud give ir all to a relationship but if it dont work then dammit it jus dont work and that is ok. the longest relationship I was in with out breakin up first was about 8 months, then we began to be off and on. But with that its all bout ur limits & if ur pushed to ur limit u have all the reason to let go. So im on ur side Dizzy ur the only one who knows the real steps to ur happiness & if she cant get there fuck her lolz!

Nicole.king38 April 13, 2009 at 7:50 PM  

I have been engaged 3 times and I'm sorta kinda enegaged now...lol! It's not a fear of commitment it's just that I can look at the guy I'm with and if I don't see a future.... if ALL I see is tomorrow the I'm callin it off!!! Simple as that. Why set yourself up for the long haul when you only goin down the block?

LOVE it DizZ!!!

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