Saturday, May 23, 2009

What is "Good Parenting"

I've always wondered what certain parents do and certain don't do to have their kids turn out "bad." I'm scared of that the most with having kids, being a bad parent. I just know some people who kids are HORRIBLE! I hate the fact that as soon as people have kids they get stupid. Letting their kids curse, talk back, fight all that other shit... With no ass beating! I feel personally that if you make mistakes in life growing up and allow your kids to make the same mistakes then you fucked up as a parent. I know some folks who have dropped out of school and lived life struggling and then allowed their kids to drop out of high school and go through the same exact struggle. What is the sense of being a parent? When you raise your kids, what is your mission?


Some parents say "I love my kids soo much. They mean the world to me" but don't take the proper steps in making sure they have a good future. Not warning them about the hardships, informing them on their options as far as college and all that.. Idk, I just hear parents saying they don't know how to talk to their kids about sex, drugs and other things but if you don't talk about it.. THEY WILL FIND OUT ABOUT IT!

Apples don't fall to far from the tree but what if the tree rotten? I know some kids who are mirror images of their parents or one of their parents. Then I know kids who are exact opposites. Some kids look at their parents and say I don't want to be that and some kids look at their parents and see that as they only way they can be. Some kids are not informed about options and even if they are some kids don't care because they never see it. Kind of hard to tell a kid that the world can be yours when his or her whole family live check to check and never actually see someone successful. That's just my opinion. Question of the day is what are you going to do different with raising YOUR kids? I can't speak to much on this because I don't want any angry comments lol.

10 comments:

caela alyssa.ann May 24, 2009 at 9:46 AM  

i WOULDNT DO ANYTHiNG DiFFERENT. MY MOTHER RAiSED US TO KNOW GOD AND HAVE TO HAVE A RELATiONSHiP WiTH HiM. DONT WANT TO GET HOLY BUT WHEN A PARENT RAiSES U WITH DiSCiPLiNE, MORALS, TO BE RESPECTFUL TO OTHERS && TO BE HUMBLE EVERYTHING SHOULD GO JUST RiGHT!

ABC May 24, 2009 at 10:17 AM  

I think when you have an overbearing parent, you look at that and say I will give my kids more freedom and then when you have parents that just don't give a damn, you wanna be there, and give 'em more guidance. And from what I've seen in my family, those mentalities sometime skip a generation. But idk, I'm not a parent... LMAO!

xxxx May 24, 2009 at 10:59 AM  

when i do have kids i want to be exactly like my mother. i feel like my mother did the best that she could and she is perfect when it comes to parenting in every sense. only change that i will make is the influence of my culture onto my children. i am jamaican and my family is very set into their ways and i dont want my child to grow up with some of the ideologies that i did. but besides that i will be just like my mother. and not all the time the children are a reflection of their parents. sometimes no matter how hard a parent tries to rear their child the right way that child is going to do what they want. for a while i was like that from 11 till about 16 i just didnt care about anything and i did what i wanted to but it had nothing to do with my mother and her parenting because my siblings were fine it was just me.

Lyrik.Marie.Simmons May 24, 2009 at 2:33 PM  

My child [when I adopt it] . Is gonna be taken far, far away from my past .. He's never gonna have any exposure to what I was exposed to .. And what my mom didn't teach me .. I can re-assure you; I will re-compensate through my child ..

Danny Love May 24, 2009 at 5:27 PM  

The steps I take in raising my son are the ones my parents didn't take. Not saying my parents were "bad" parents because they did everything they felt right. They did what they could, and they did what they thought best, and thats all you can ask from someone. Personally though I want to do more. My approch with my son is realism. See my parents sugar coated things for me. If I asked a question I was almost made to believe that "Yes, this happens, but it won't happen to me." I don't want my son to think he is too good for the bad. I want him to grow up and be a reasonable and logical person. I feel as though I'm a good parent, but opinions and favorables change with everyone. So what I feel is right, may not be right to someone else. I think doing what YOU can to better your child is what makes you a good parent.

A woman can't support her child, and gives up her rights to the states. She did what was best for her child. In it's own way makes her a good parent. She was strong enough to let go for the best of her childs intrest.

You can only do what YOU can do, as long as you're willing to go to the end and back testing your strengths and abilities for your child then you'll be a good parent.
In my eyes at least.

Whatcha Nameis May 28, 2009 at 2:38 PM  

i wish i knew what good parenting is , my sister is 5 [ turning 6 ] and i think my mother is not doing a good job . Well atleast sometimes i don't think she is doing good. But how the fck do i know ? i wonder if having a "bad child" is from your genetics ...

Shandra E...*the misses June 2, 2009 at 11:25 PM  

wow...It's a great change to see a man thinking about things of this nature & being goal-oriented beyond the fence of "front yard dreams/achievements"! Having a child is such a life changing experience & raising that child (or seeing that they are raised right) is one of the most responsible things one can do!

Like the girl in the 1st comment, I was raised with strong Christian morals & Godly views, However...That in no way makes a parent's job "DONE" or even near perfect!!! Alot of "church kids" are horrible students with poor work ethics in the classroom because the only thing valued in the home is church!! Sad thing is GOD should be the priority (not so much the church)....so idk, I would change ALOT OF THINGS when raising my children...they'll be college savvy & ready to take on reality outside of the four walls of the church! Don't think for 1 sec. i'm bitter Or agnostic! lol...so untrue...I LOVE GOD & my mom for instilling so many great values (the most important ones at that)!! I just graduated with my BAchelors in psychology, so i'm definitely not the "bad seed" i mentioned, BUT i had to figure it out on my own! I'm the child who says NOPE. I won't be like THAT!! So yess, you definitely tell those "check to check" kids that they CAN take the world by storm...BESIDES, It used to be the whole village raising the child...perhaps, if the village gets back on the job, kids would be better representations of greatness!

Parents only do part of the role, And parenting is not limited to mothers & fathers...sometimes we have to parent each other...

Shandra E...*the misses June 9, 2009 at 3:11 PM  

HEY...Your new post won't show??!! "Moving On"...this is your second time posting it, still everytime i click on it, it doesn't show up...actually acccording to your pg you haven't posted anything in June?! lol...I'm one of your followers so I get updates, but then I can't read it?! x-p

Max Gibson June 9, 2009 at 7:51 PM  

My parents never cease to lead by example. Although we fail to communicate at times about topics regarding sex and drugs they have shown me how to act based upon their own ways of being. Max.

GL0 June 25, 2009 at 4:07 PM  

Don't want any angry comments?? Lol.. You've already said everything you could to spark anger anyway :P

But truth angers people anyway, so who cares. And ahhh, the last paragraph was my favorite, specifically "Apples don't fall too far from the tree, but what if the tree is rotten?" verryyyy true! Parents are sometimes duplicates of their children, or in some cases, complete opposites, so its hard to say how some ppl go about parenting.

My core parenting would focus around:
Discipline
Faith
& Respect

Cant go wrong with any of those three right there.

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