Monday, January 24, 2011

Beautiful black woman... Grow some balls

African American women have to grow some balls. They seem to only speak exactly how they feel once everything is over. They allow themselves to be second or third to a man. They allow themselves to be just the fuck buddy or just the home girl, never demanding anything more. Step back ladies and ask yourself, what the fuck am I doing here. Look at the guy you dealing with and ask “what the fuck are we doing here?” A lot of women are scared to ask this question because they don’t want to scare the guy off but fuck that. It is better he leave now because he scared then to drag it out any further. Once you are an adult you have to handle every situation like an adult including relationships.

I want women to stop thinking that God will bring them a good man just cause. I know women that are 50+ and have no one. How do you explain that theory to them? God plays favoritism? You simply can’t play hard to get, have a list of preposterous requirements, listen to your single girl friends telling you “girl fuck men, we got each other”, and then say God is going to bring you someone at the end of the day. I don’t think it works like that.

Some African American women believe that a guy has to be perfect for them right off the back. He shouldn't need any molding, training, guidance, or anything and if he does then they ready to be on to the next. Well got damn, really? Let me ask you something, how long have these methods worked? Can’t be 21+ still believing the same shit you believed at 15 or 16. Something has to change. The common denominator in every failed relationship you have been in is, you.

I think a lot of women want the love they see in the movies but that shit is fake and written by someone. I think a lot of women look at movies and believe it is suppose to happen exactly like that or it’s not real. Sometimes it takes sacrifice and change and unless you are willing to change and make sacrifices then you are playing to lose. Stop allowing men to do whatever whenever. Make these cowards man the fuck up. If you don’t then you can’t cry when they don’t.


@SimpleEloquence January 24, 2011 at 9:20 PM  

I absolutely LOVE this one.. So I finally found a favorite. I'm glad you put that out there because so many women ARE afraid to step up... we can TALK about what we are going to do but it needs to be backed up with ACTIONS. For most people actions speak louder than words and women do need to demand what they want let it be known upfront so he knows what he's dealing with and she can see if this needs to go any further.

You're back and doing it up. Keep up the GREAT work. =)

@RaeRenee731 January 25, 2011 at 9:09 AM  

I love your post! It's so true.

Small caveat though...African American and Black aren't one and the same. Black could include Latina women, Caribbean women, etc. Not a huge deal but when it comes to this topic it could be.

Other ethnic women (besides African American) behave differently with men. A lot of my Black Latina friends say that African American women do exactly what you talk about in this post and they don't understand why.

At this point I feel like I'm too old to get less than I'm giving. That shit is not cute AT ALL!

Anonymous January 25, 2011 at 9:30 AM  

I completely agree. Some women are too busy running to their friends about what he has or hasn't done instead of addressing the man about it. Men aren't mind readers....they take what women give. Some women give it up without making it known what they want...they can't complain in the end if they never speak up in the beginning. But we all know thatll never change....

So glad you're back up!


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