How long can you actually "talk" to someone?
After talking to a few females, they all disagree with me but I know why they’re disagreeing with me. How long can you “talk” to someone? Realistically, how long can you just “talk” to someone before you realize that you two are just fuck buddies who can’t let go or move forward? In my opinion after three months of talking to someone with no title or word on what’s going on, you two are just fuck buddies. I just don’t believe that two adults can just be casually spending time together and fucking for a long period of time. Fool, this isn’t college. When will one of you decide to be together and make a future? The woman is the one who usually plays backseat in this situation waiting on the guy. At what point does somebody stop and say this has to change? I believe people get comfortable.
Too many people getting their emotions wrapped up in casual sex friends and become hurt if it doesn’t have the cliché Disney happy ending. You can’t date someone forever. It’s like counting months. Your baby can’t be 234 months old. At one point it has to stop. Why do we date? To get to know someone, enjoy ones company and feel them out; right? If that’s so, if it takes you more than 6 months to feel someone out and make a decision on if you want to be with them you might want to hang it up. That person isn’t for you. If it takes someone longer than 6 months to commit then that’s also a problem. These days though, you don’t even have to commit.
You can get whatever you want from a casual friend if you’re a guy such as sex, gifts, company, etc. So, is it a point in getting a title? What can you do differently if we add this title? You already give me the world without me saying I’m yours. You giving me your all while I’m still on the market. You are giving me the world while I’m still community property! Ladies you need to stop being dumb in the name of love and faith. Having faith that even though you do any and everything for someone who isn’t yours that they’ll come around and will be yours. The shit doesn’t always have a perfect ending if ever and when you do that you come out the victim with yourself to blame. But can someone tell me, how long can you just “talk” to someone or “date”. Be realistic with me now. -Dizzy
2 comments:
I was wondering that same question. I understand both sides though. People like staying in that situation because it's comfortable...they basically start believing "if this isn't my significant other then I don't have to deal with all that comes with it." But like that movie "No Strings Attached," how can you have sex with someone and not develop feelings..it's impossible. ESPECIALLY if it's repeatedly. Women AND Men set themselves up for that one.
I think that if people in general need to figure out that some stuff/situations are just destined to fail.
This was definitely a GREAT subject!
With my current boyfriend, I just 'talked' to him for about three years, and I led him on almost every single day. I was hesitant to have sex with him because I saw how he treated other girls, and it was just a disgrace, but I couldn't help the way I felt about him.
Now, 4 years later and with a ring on my finger, I'm more than confident that the challenge I gave him when we were HS kids has given him an appreciation for me as a person and as his partner.
SO I, would talk to a guy for a VERY long time before taking it to the next level, and during that time, I'd like the guy to keep it real with me and let me know he's not ready for commitment.
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