Wednesday, December 9, 2009

So you can't cook??

To all the women who can't cook.. HOW DARE YOU!

Every female that I seem to run across can't cook but they hit me with this line "I'm learning though." That's like me saying, "naw, I don't know how to fuck but I'm learning though." Wouldn't that make you frown ya face up? Back in the day, waaaay back waaaaay back, women took care of the home and the man took care of the finances. This is what I heard anyway. Today's woman still want a man to have finances but they don't know how to take care of the home. I just don't understand how a woman can still ask for a man to be a ideal man if they can't be the ideal woman. Sure you can dress and look good, sure you can club and get in for free, sure you can take cute pictures for myspace and twitter but what else can you do? Can you do any tricks? How can you say you looking for a "real man" when you not even a "real woman." It's not just about the cooking so let me back up and clear things up.

When a man is teaching a man how to be a man, its the conversation that a man has with the boy that teaches him. As he cut the grass for money, he schools him the importance working for money is. When he is fixing the car in the garage, he tells him how important it is you learn how to fix things on your own instead of waiting around for someone else. When the mom cleans the house and cook dinner, the dad secretly tells the boy to tell his mom how good the food is and say thank you for everything. It's things like that that a man teaches a boy through conversation as they are growing up. With a woman, if you don't know how to cook, it means certain conversations didn't take place. The things women talk about in the kitchen when men aren't present is very important and you didn't have that. You probably didn't notice your mom cleaning up around the house or how she comforted your dad after a long day at work. Now I might be looking tooo deep into this. I know but I can only go by the things I have witnessed. The girls that do know how to cook often know how to keep a man happy just a little bit more then the ones who can't cook. I know I'm probably pissing a lot of females off right now but I just couldn't take it anymore. You get a man with your looks but you need to learn how to KEEP the man. Same thing goes with a man. We get the woman with looking like we about something. Shooting a little game at her.. But after that, we have to learn how to KEEP the woman.

I know some are thinking, why don't you just learn how to cook so that won't be a problem. Well I do know how to cook so that aint the issue. What man wants to play the role of the woman all the time? What woman will be fine with a man cooking and cleaning in the relationship? What will you do then? Other then have sex that is.. These are real questions! I blame the new generation. Single parents are fucking up the way the world turns. Single parents raises kids who will be single forever! O well. I'm a go cook me some lunch right now and say fuck it. Peaaaaaaaace!


Tashur Raquel December 9, 2009 at 11:51 AM  

"Single parents raises kids who will be single forever!" <--not true. I agree with everything else tho!

aja December 9, 2009 at 11:59 AM  

I couldnt agree more with you....I love this blog...i wish we could back to how times momma taught me damn near everthing and yes it all started in the kitchen watching as a lil girl. My momma was married to my daddy for 25 yrs and I saw her cater to her man....i plan to pass everything i learned from her to my daughter as well and hope she keeps the cycle going when she has kids....everything starts in the household whether people wanna believe it or not.

keep doin ya thang bro.

Supastarrr December 9, 2009 at 12:08 PM  

I agree w| you on some of this. If you're going to play the traditional June Cleaver, Leave it to Beaver role, than of course you need to stick to the script. Times change, people change, women are bread winners in families now too. If both people have crazy careers, both should learn how to cook && do things for each other. If a woman is the sole provider, that man better have his apron on in the kitchen. It's 50/50. This comes from a girl that can cook by the way lol

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 12:11 PM  

lol well first off...lemme say, I honestly like the fact that you pointed out the question "how can you say you looking for a "real man" when you aint even a "real woman". these days we hear both women and men alike saying, where all the "real" women/men at- and more than half the time, you know you can shake your head at those people knowing they are not put together themselves. I cant begin to tell you how many status' on facebook and such that I see saying that.

As for the rest, I am a woman, I do not enjoy cleaning, and I get too lazy to cook sometimes....but I can cook if I want and I do (not how my grandmother did, still working on the feast type meals lol)..and as for cleaning, I dont enjoy it- in my family, cleaning wasnt just organizing shit to make it look is getting down on ur hands and knees and scrubbing everything, no dust ANYWHERE: not even on the baseboards around the room. If there is dust there, please believe you bust out a old toothbrush you use for cleaning and scrub all around the room. The house better smell of nothing but clorox and other cleaners!

And I dont only blame single parents...I blame dumb parents too, ones who dont give 2 shits about teaching their kids any morals or anything important...the ones who sit their kids in front of a tv so they dont have to deal with them...

ok im done. nice blog :)


Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 1:02 PM  

This entry is compelling. I have lacked many of conversations with my mother and grandmother therefore I am one who lacks cooking skills. A relationship is a partnership and nowadays people are putting more dependency on one instead of both.
The best part of the entry is when you said you blame the new generation and single parenting...that can be a factor, a big factor.
Great blog.

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 1:26 PM  

i agree with most of what you said here because back in the day i found it was more easier to do the things we were told to do but some things i have to disagree with. for example "Single parents raises kids who will be single forever!" i have to disagree because I've seen and know plenty of people who were single, and have children that are in serious relationships or married. i guess your right about knowing how to cook if your a woman but some of us choose not too because cooking isn't our forte. i personally DON'T like the kitchen. that's what we have maids for though. no offense to the maids though.

BRISTINA December 9, 2009 at 3:21 PM  


Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 4:28 PM  

I agree with the points regarding the "kitchen conversations". My mother is a country girl at heart (from the sticks of AL), but she moved to the city where she started working full time and was a wife and mother at the age of 19. Before that, my mother was the eldest of five children, so she was accustomed to being the "back up" to my grandmother.

Fast forward to current times, and I realize that my mother taught me a lot of essential things that I could use in life such as how to be ladylike, how to handle my finances, to always stay out of drama, and to connect with God as my source of strength and guidance. As far as cooking, I BAKE, but the cooking of meals is rare for me because my mother, to this day, STILL cooks big meals and only allows me to do certain aspects of the meal (i.e. preparation, checking temps, etc) but NEVER just allowing me full advantage in the kitchen... this might have just turned me into a princess, but I'm getting better... sorry for the tangent, but the bottom line is I HEAR YA and I'm LEARNING!!! LOL

Lauren S December 9, 2009 at 4:38 PM  

Great post, dude. Even though some girls nowadays feel like traditional roles relegate them to something that isn't them, I feel like there's something about doing them makes you feel like a woman. Of course not all the time but sometimes it just feels cook to cater to your other half. The same thing goes the other way around too.

Keep doin what you're doin, it's always a pleasure to read :)

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 5:07 PM  

heyy dizz..
i just wanted to flaunt how u liked my cmmnt when i said 'isnt the way to a mans heart food'

jussss how it be ladies we gotta do better. get in the kitchen wit mama and granny and learn

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 5:47 PM  

I love reading the babble you write. Coming from a single parent not only did my mother teach me how to cook, clean, and be a woman who knows how to cater to her man so out with that B.S. My mother taught me these things not for a man to learn how to survive own my own. Not only do I know how to cut grass I also learned the value of earning a dollar.

Here's what I really disagree with to be a good woman doesn't mean you need to know how to cook or do what you believe to be the womanly role. Because that shit doesn't exsist anymore because what someone can lack at they could excel and make up for another.

Honestly the only thing I can think of when reading your blogs is who are you??? Reading your blogs I get a sense of your character and honestly I think you need take a bigger look at yourself before you go offering your advice. Just my opinion like this is yours. And when I read the comments I honestly laugh at some of them thinking the girls who agree with you are the exact ones your talking about.


вʀᴇᴇ ♑ ваɴᴋʓ December 9, 2009 at 6:02 PM  

my relationship with my parents wasnt so good growing up. the things i should've learned from the number one man in my life i didnt... instead he did me like a niqqa in the street would & my mom... well we bumped heads because i thought she was trying to keep my from my dad... soo i everything i should know i dont but now i pay attn & learn... ill clean till the house smell like bleach but cooking.. haha yeaah its not ya grandmothers home cooked meal but when im hungry ill qet in the kitchen. i make a bad ass breakfast tho lOl. overall.. good post i understand where you coming from. women should read this & learn. it'll help.

E Dot DizZy December 9, 2009 at 6:17 PM  

Sorry Clara, this isn't an advice column. These are my thoughts. If you don't agree that's cool. Your mom taught you well and I commend her, congrats to your mother. If you are in fact a single mother with all these great qualities and still a single mother then that must really sucks. Not trying to be an ass or anything. But if your mom taught you how to cook and take care of a man, what is your argument? Who are you fighting for? You can cook so what the hell are you fussing about? Your mom taught you well. Who am I? You reading my site, I'm not reading yours. Who are you? Why you so angry?

lalaliybean December 9, 2009 at 6:33 PM  

i come from a single parent household and my mom taught me how to cook, not only for the sake of keeping a man, but for my goddamn self! like really, some females wanna front like it's all gravy because they know how to do other shit, but what chick really wants to admit she can't cook?! that's a fucking fundamental! what the hell do people do? go out and buy everything they eat? or eat processed garbage food all the time? i'm 19 and i'd be embarrassed right now if i said that i couldn't cook. i couldn't imagine how shitty these non-cooking chicks in their mid-twenties feel. this post might make some chicks real salty, but it is what it is! you should always be on the up and up in the domestic department ladies!

Miss.Fortune December 9, 2009 at 8:37 PM  

sheesh all these ppl complaining and still cant cook! lol thank goodness i can

i agree with supastarrr tho

Kim December 10, 2009 at 2:18 PM  

hey eric. miss me?
anyway I totally agree with this post and I understand your point clearly. Thanks to growing up in a Jamaican home where cooking and cleaning is a major priority, i know how to cook, clean, take care of a household. All young women need that guidance early on in life. I can honestly say that I would make an excellent wife because i know how to do all those things well. No husband wants a wife who can't friggin cook dinner or clean. These females should think twice about their roles as a wife way before asking for a ring.

GL0 December 14, 2009 at 8:47 PM  

I disagree with the single parents statement.. in some cases single-parented households nurtures the most well-mannered and successful children out there. It's all about the parents and the culture. Some cultures take something like cooking a lot more seriously.. others don't care much for it, hence the flavorless foods (most white people, no offense) lol

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