Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Oh So You Mad? pt. 1

Wrote a note about women who can't cook. A lot missed the key point I was trying to make in the second paragraph and If you missed it, go back and read. It's not just about cooking. Fuck the cooking, a lot of men can cook these days so we don't need you to cook anything. I tried to take it deeper then just the cooking. But since we have SO many women objecting to it and saying things like "My mom tried to teach me, I just didn't care to learn. Does that make me less of a woman? No! I want a man's finances together because mine will be on point." "I'm personally disagree that an ideal women would revolve around cooking." I didn't say that in the post but if that's what she got, okay. And this, my favorite "u said ideally men handle finances & women handle cooking. WELL now its a LOT OF WOMEN who handle the finance so roles r CHANGING. jus sayin back then women had nothing BUT TIME 2learn how 2cook now women r in school, working & all that so yall need 2b PATIENT." Well its funny you guys said that, and I will address all of this. One thing you have to remember is that I am speaking from a mans point of view.

The one that stuck out to me was the last text in bold.The one about a lot of women have their own finances and don't have time to learn and all that. I understand what you saying but it don't make any kind of sense. When you are a child, you learn to wash clothes, clean your room, guys learn to shave, women learn how to handle being on their period, so on and so on. I'm not saying you should learn how to cook NOW, of course you don't have time. You are out partying and going to college, getting in unsuccessful relationships and can't figure out why shit just aint working out. I'm saying you should have learned to cook back when you was in grade, middle and high school, right when you was learning to do laundry. To prepare you for YOUR future. So YOU can feed YOURSELF. It has nothing to do with cooking for a man. So lets talk about the patience part which I found tickling. You want me to be patient so you can learn how to cook when you could have learned how to cook long time ago? I mean you have to eat to live right? You eat everyday. It hasn't dawned on you that you can't cook every time your stomach growl? So instead of learning how to cook which saves you money in the long run you just eat out, buy hot pockets, pizzas, all that. If you got a foreman grill, kudos to you, that's a start.

But why do I have to be patient for you to catch up on something you could have learned growing up? Are you going to be patient with me until I get my funds up? Are you going to be patient with me while I learn how to fuck? Are you going to be patient with me as I learn how to comfort you and make you feel like a lady? Hell naw, you gone leave and be with someone who has all their shit together. Why? Because in your mind you feel like a man should have all that together before you meet him. I personally feel like if you didn't take the time to learn something stuff growing up you wont ever take the time to learn it. Rather it be making friends with people, dating and what it takes to make something work, being social, all that. You just don't learn math, english, science, and social studies in school. You learn how to deal with people, how to problem solve, you learn about yourself, who to associate with and who not to associate with. ALL THAT. I mean, at least I did.

I keep hearing "roles are changing." Okay lets dissect that shall we? I understand that women have since evolved since the 60's and 70's. Women want to have their own money, they want to be more established, okay. I understand and RESPECT that. I want all women to have money and power, that shit turn me on. A chick in a nice car with her own shit.. They get the grade A penis from Dizzy! Don't say roles are changing though because even with that said you still want a man to be just that, a man. Females roles are changing. So what exactly is it that you want from a man? Can any female answer that. What is it that you want from a man? If you bring home your own bacon, if you got your own shit, what is it that you need a man to do these days. I'm not being sexist, I'm saying women should stay at home, I'm simply asking. What do you want the relationship to be like? What is it you want the man to do? I'm asking so I can know for myself for when I decide to get in a relationship.

If you are only going to think about yourself then that's cool. If you are going to date and be with someone then you have to change your thought process and include making someone else happy.

end of part 1.


Eva B. December 9, 2009 at 4:53 PM  

Preeeeaaaach!! I agree with you 100% Dizz. Point blank. Period.

Ashley December 9, 2009 at 5:07 PM  

Wow...honestly...I have to say I agree with you on this one...!! Well said...kudos!

Cee Frizzle December 9, 2009 at 5:10 PM  

I'm so happy you brought up the question, "What do you want a man to do?"

During the summer when I was having bad guy problems, I picked up Steve Harvey's book, which is an excellent read, and it was in the chapter about why men steer away from POWERFUL women that the question you asked applied.

Roles are changing, yes, but there are still things that we should know how to do because we're in that certain gender role. If a woman can do everything that a man can do, then what will she need him for? That's when a man feels he isn't needed and bounce. You are free to do things especially if you know how to do them. But stopping a man from being a man is one hell of a relationship breaker. And its not right.

A man wants to feel needed! Cuz he was taught along with many other things to protect his family and those he loves. If he feels like he can't protect you, what is he there for?

GD December 9, 2009 at 5:29 PM  

lol...what is funny is I agree with you. It goes beyond cooking. The blog was deeper than cooking. But anyway. I make my own and have my own, that doesn't mean that I won't let whomever I am with do his duty as a man and take care of home. Yes times are changing, but I look at that as a way for my man and I to build an empire and be strong together, Though he will always feel like he is the shit.

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 5:37 PM  

wow. i knew someone was going to get offended. I'm glad you spoke your part because a lot of women out there are so clueless but your right in pointing it out dizzy. i give you props for that!

p.s. for me someone loving, honest, and that communicates well will be all i need. I'm not the one to go for looks or money because that doesn't get you happiness :)

MarisaJade December 9, 2009 at 5:59 PM  

OK so 1st things 1st I cant speak for anyone but myself & since i inspired this post heres my take on it. When i was younger I was much more fascinated & focused with making money, so with all the free time I had thats what i was doing. Now Ive gotten to an age where im in school, no job BUT iHAVE a decent amount of money, but still have not learned how to cook. However, this is one of my priorities & like i said the second i graduate I will strictly be focused on that just like i was with making money when i was younger. So yeah maybe i didnt take the time out to learn how to cook back then but i was doing other things. Shit and honestly i feel what i was doing a lot of guys should have BEEN doing but 99% of the guys i meet are broke or struggling & dnt have their shit together financially. However, honestly if i really really like them i would still fuck with them & i'd be patient with them so i expect them to be patient with me. So basically what im trying to say is even tho a lot of us women today dont know how to cook but still constantly talk about how we want a man and all the end of the day most of our priorities are still right. We understand the fact that no one is going to do shit for us or pay our bills or provide us with the financial stability that we need, so we make it a priority to take care of that ourselves. Cooking's important & like u said its about taking care of a man...but shit, no matter how much we talk about wanting a man....we also know we have to take care of ourselves first before we start taking care of someone else. So thats why i said BE PATIENT. I'd do the same. I understand its not all about cooking though, its wanting a woman to be a woman...well theres just too many men in the world today that arent on top of being a woman & handling woman responsibilities...a lot of us have to handle the traditional male's responsibilities too. Shit we cant do it all! So if I have almost every damn near quality u want in a girl EXCEPT I CANNOT COOK YET.....shit u better STFU and be patient or go find u a woman that can cook and cheat on her ass cuz ur not satisfied with her mentally and emotionally and blah blah blah. Bottom line is: women make sacrifices for men so need to learn to do the same! And if not then I guess its jus gonna be a lot of unhappy or single people out in the world!

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 6:00 PM  

Okay So I find this post even funnier than the last. Especailly this part ----> One thing you have to remember is that I am speaking from a mans point of view". Scrap the man part insert male, because from what I read that's not the word of a man but a male.

Another thing I competely disagree with and find funny----> "But why do I have to be patient for you to catch up on something you could have learned growing up? Are you going to be patient with me until I get my funds up? Are you going to be patient with me while I learn how to fuck?...." Honestly your wrong I will defintely be patient with a man as he learns to do all of these things IF he's worth it. Part of being in a relationship is growing with your partner as you both learn how to be better men and women. If you don't know how to grow with a person they could get left me behind or you can.

To answer your question-----> "If you bring home your own bacon, if you got your own shit, what is it that you need a man to do these days. I'm not being sexist, I'm saying women should stay at home, I'm simply asking?" How about to be someone I can count on, to be supportive, to be a parnter, someone to be there when times get hard.Might sound simple but a lot of men can't accomplish this task.


E Dot DizZy December 9, 2009 at 6:24 PM  

Again Clara you have angry thoughts about this post. You seemed to be disturbed by it the most. First I want to ask why because you know how to cook and "cater" to a man. Is it because you know how to do these things and still single? Well the problem lies with you. Probably because you so angry for no reason. I know I'm not a man, duh. I'm on my way though. If you find these posts funny I'm glad you are amused and glad I could put a smile on a strangers face.

I simply want to know why YOU are so angry at what I'm saying if you in fact can cook and take care of home. I'm confused. Am I missing something? When you say what you are looking for. You can get that from a best friend. Hell you can get that from a dog if you train it right. What's the sense of dating then? I think you should want more from someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with. It will make it that more special. That's just me though. But you have a blessed one and I wish you the best on your endeavors. :)

MarisaJade December 9, 2009 at 6:52 PM  

ok dont get me wrong I get a lot of the things you are saying and im not COMPLETELY DISAGREEING with u E, u make some good points, I was just explaining more on WHY it is what it is today....but I do agree with what Ciara said. And when i said roles are changing, i also mean our expectations and needs from MEN are changing a little as well. Yes we may need or rely on men for certain things that we cannot do ourselves or prefer for a man to do. However, being that women are more independent these days we dont need men to the EXTENT or for the same reasons we ONCE DID.

Anonymous December 9, 2009 at 7:45 PM  

I agree with Cee Frizzle. Dizz isnt saying women need to go get an apron and stay at home...but do what a women needs to do. Be the nurturing factor, cook, clean, take care of the home and the people in it- while a man goes out protects his family, provides for his family...yes now a days you can see the "roles" change out where sometimes the man can be the stay at home father, and the mother out making money...

ok...well we arent talking about that here. he is talking about simply, knowing how to do take care of ourselves in order to step up and take it to a family or relationship situation.

and Clara...kudos to your mama teaching you all that you know. Most single mother do not go as far as to teach their daughters how to mow the lawn and handle what is "a mans job" good for u and u go girl. I too can mow the lawn, wash the car, change a tire, replace spark plugs in my car, and dont go get offended, he's not bashing you by any means. this blog is not intended for you if you have all that going on! howeverrrrr....if you have all that going on, why are you a single mother? if you can cater to a man and have all the patience in the world for someone you care about...than why are you a single mother? is your reason because "there arent any good men in the world" cuz that is wrong. you havent found the right one for YOU. or you are doing things wrong, by feeling you are omega woman perhaps since you have been taught these things. Men need to feel needed in a womans life for many of reasons...and if you dont give any will stay single. end of story. I recommend Steve Harvey's book to you, and some deep thinking about your personal opinions and have more of an open mind because all that is being said can possibly help you out.

Anyways, I enjoy this and am glad you are openly giving your opinions on it Dizz.


Lyrik Marie December 9, 2009 at 7:54 PM  

Regardless of how much money women bring home, how much shit we own ourselves. We're still gonna need the male counterpart. We're still gonna need DICK, a hug, and someone to comfort us.

So despite the whole "roles are changing" women are still going to need to learn certain basics that are essential to being a women i.e; cooking, cleaning etc ...

Anonymous December 10, 2009 at 7:16 AM  

High Five Dizzy

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